“But just about as cozy as these false narratives can be, they are debilitating, hindering us from discovering our true selves and full capabilities. If I don't leave the comfort of those sheets at the dawn of the new frosty morning, how will I know what I'm truly capable of as I face the new day?”
Have you ever held a positive impression of yourself, only to have it met with doubt and scoffing from an internalized story line, or external voices surrounding you? Being torn down by words, especially words from within, is detrimental.
There is great power in the narratives we tell of ourselves. All of our thoughts and behaviors are birthed from what we believe to be true. However, there can come a great void when our truths are rooted in a non-grounded reality about who we were meant to be. False narratives can creep in when least expecting it, especially ones we tell ourselves.
I'm not creative . . . I'll never step out . . . I don't belong here . . . I'm not successful . . .
These phrases are representative of stories I've held about myself over the years. If you share any of these stories, or have others which you carry, I think you would agree that they can cause unsettling pain over time. Before long, we start to believe the stories these internal voices are telling us instead of challenging them. False narratives lead us down a path of self-hatred and depression.
It is very difficult to let go of the negative stories we form about ourselves, especially when the threat of rejection is looming if we attempt to challenge them. Over time, they can become comfortable, cozy, like a set of freshly washed sheets underneath the down comforter during a blistery winter. It's what we know, and what others expect from us. We snuggle up to them until we drift away in sleep, hoping that morning won't come too soon. But just about as cozy as these false narratives can be, they are debilitating, hindering us from discovering our true selves and full capabilities. If I don't leave the comfort of those sheets at the dawn of the new frosty morning, how will I know what I'm truly capable of as I face the new day?
Fear and depression are real, so there are some negative impressions deeply set that can trigger chemical imbalances and moments of despair, which should be addressed with additional care and loving help on a regular basis. This is important and beautifully okay. I find that some of my deeply set narratives I know to NOT be true requires having a friend or someone else constantly reminding me of a more clear reality.
If I may offer up a challenge, one I intend to enter with you . . . take several moments to examine what false narratives are holding reins in certain areas of your life. Ask yourself for forgiveness, for limiting your ability to be. Consider releasing others who have tried to dictate who you are. Take those reins back by finding the truth about yourself.
You are to be unencumbered to live out the beautiful reality of who you are. We as a community of people need to hear it. We want to believe the truth about you, because we want to believe the truth about ourselves. What is your narrative telling you today?