“Such an important asset with such a simple word attached to it, but for most of us, the relationship we have with time is beyond complex…we sometimes end up forgetting about it and other times obsessing over it. We often become hypocrites when it comes to time. Sometimes we value it and show it the respect it deserves, and often we assign it no value, giving it away for free or wasting huge amounts of it.”
In addition to stand-alone articles, we thought it would be fun to set broader topics to ponder further and go deeper on. For this inaugural series, we've decided to dig into the topic of “time.”
Time…! Most of us in our 40s and up, and some of the younger wiser folk truly understand that time is the most valuable resource in life. You can’t buy time and every living person gets exactly 24 hours allotted to them a day. In this sense, it’s the one truly fair aspect of life. Of course, not always if you’re thinking long-term, but definitely true when you’re talking about living beings each day.
Such an important asset with such a simple word attached to it, but for most of us, the relationship we have with time is extremely complex. Even more complex than our relationship with money or food - and these are definitely pretty complex relationships!
I think it has something to do with the fact that we can’t touch or see time. Since it’s not staring us in the face, we sometimes end up forgetting about it and other times obsessing over it. We often become hypocrites when it comes to time. Sometimes we really value it and show it the respect it deserves, and often we assign it no value, giving it away for free or wasting huge amounts of it.
After quitting my last 9-to-5 “hamster wheel” job, for about 6 months after the initial zone out period, I felt busier and more strapped for time than ever. I was constantly drained and frustrated, rushing from place to place, finishing one thing after the other, meeting one person after the next. This exhaustion was particularly annoying to me because it was exactly the opposite of how I expected and wanted to feel after finally getting off the dreaded hamster wheel.
Why do I feel like I have less time now when in reality I should have so much more? I realized it was because I was now treating time, which used to be a scarce resource for me, as an abundant resource and spending it unwisely … like I had won the lottery and went on a shoe-buying binge or something like that.
Despite the fact that we all know there’s no way to acquire more time, we often foolishly struggle to somehow “extend it.” It’s hard to accept, especially for a type A like me, but sometimes multi-tasking just doesn’t work and it’s not a good idea to try to be hyper-efficient with time. This results in us not living in the moment or even worse, being stressed out or ruining a moment.
Another fascinating aspect of time is how it feels different in different situations. Some hours fly by and sometimes even one minute can be unbearable. And do I even need to mention how time flies as we get older – any of you still feel like we just celebrated the new year???
For this month, I would like to invite all of you to contemplate your unique relationship to time. How do you use your time? How do you manage it? What’s working and what’s not? What’s interesting or frustrating about this relationship you have with time? Also, what's the connection between time and your skin?
In the next few weeks, we’ll share a few specific stories on time to get you thinking. Hopefully it will be an opportunity for all of us to realize one or two new things and strengthen and nurture this profoundly important life relationship.