Am I Being Kind To Myself?

By Charity

“Am I being kind to myself if I know that the eczema on my skin will inflame when I consume dairy?  Am I being kind to myself when I neglect the bedtime hour I so desperately need to bring my best self into the next day?  Am I being kind to myself if I don’t take my quiet time to center my mind, body and spirit?”

The concept of 'skincare' was once foreign to me.  From what I could see on the mass market shelves, skincare products and brands were trying to tell me everything that was wrong with me.  Or the products were only for those who had the time and resources to pamper and indulge in regular spa treatments and services.  I grew up in a low-to-middle class household where hard work was not balanced with vacations.  My only saving grace for anti-aged skin was the assurance that "black don't crack."

The idea that my heritage would ensure a beautiful aging process is not necessarily guaranteed, but I'm still banking on it!  When I was younger, I didn't understand why the skincare industry was so focused on anti-aging products.  Even as a young girl, I would question the motives.  If aging is an inevitable part of the human experience, why are we so determined to reverse or stop 'aging'?  What if the more powerful response was to learn how to age beautifully?

Skincare is simply an extension of whole body care - when we recognize the interconnections of our body design and acknowledge these relationships as valuable.  Not only are you what you eat, but you become what you think and who you are around.  We are eminently malleable to the environments in which we live in and create within ourselves.  Nature and nurture seem to have equal parts in determining the cause and effect of so many things in our lives.  How does one navigate it all?

Asking the right question may help take us through.  Each layer of our beings are so complex and warrant kindness and generosity.  Whether pampering is your jam, or natural remedies are your message, the question I recommend asking is are you being kind to yourself. Your best skincare routine lies within the answer to this question.

Sometimes I explore the answer to this question by looking at what is out of balance.  Am I being kind to myself if I know that the eczema on my skin will inflame when I consume dairy?  Am I being kind to myself when I neglect the bedtime hour I so desperately need to bring my best self into the next day?  Am I being kind to myself if I don’t take my quiet time to center my mind, body and spirit?

Is being kind to yourself a welcomed invitation or does it feel more like a challenge to you?  If the latter, I hope to remind you that extending kindness to yourself will expand upon the kindness you show to others.  Why not begin with your daily skincare routine?