Skincare Rituals From Mother to Daughter

By Minji

"During this mother’s day month, examine the skincare rituals, habits and values that were passed on to you by your mother-figure – what is to be cherished and remembered? On the other hand, what can be changed for the better as we think about the next generation?"

I can’t believe my daughter Allie is 14 years old already.  It seems like yesterday that her poreless cheeks were bursting with color and radiating perfection. Today I look over and can see the same glorious cheeks but now with hints of teenage acne and dark spots here and there.

She’s at an age where I’ve actively started thinking about the skincare habits and rituals I’d like to pass on to her.  Thinking back to my childhood, I learned about skincare early on, mostly through observing the skincare habits of my mother.  Her night time rituals with my grandfather’s handmade lotion and her vitamin E capsules still stick out as early skincare lessons learned through experience. However, it wasn’t until I entered college that the direct lessons began. And when they did, the focus was clearly on beauty and perfection.

I’d like to change that with Allie.  Instead of teaching her that skincare is for beauty or perfection, I’d like to focus on showing her that skincare should be considered a part of one’s overall health and wellness.  At the end of the day, skin is our largest organ and it makes sense to take care of it for longevity and health, just like we brush our teeth daily for the same reasons.

So instead of suggesting that she use this or that to “cure” her acne and make herself perfect and pretty, I’m trying to suggest that she adopt good cleansing and toning habits to make sure her skin is healthy and free from irritation and inflammation. I ask her to put on sunscreen every day not to avoid sunspots for a flawless complexion, but instead to protect against skin cancer and other harmful effects the sun can have on our skin.

Just as I encourage her to eat whole foods as much as possible and read labels to screen for highly processed food, I invite her to look at the labels of the small collection of skincare products she has on her shelf.  I emphasize the value of a short list of clean and effective ingredients – she mostly uses Soffli products as well!

On the rare occasion we share a sheet mask ritual, it's all about selfcare, relaxation and letting go, rather than a chore she must complete to beautify herself. 

Another concept I try to teach is less is more.  I hope she never becomes the skincare makeup hoarder I once was… buying anything and everything that claimed to make me prettier, shinier, flawless and perfect.

These are the types of skincare habits, values and rituals I hope to pass on to my daughter. On this mother’s day month, it might be interesting for you to think about the skincare rituals that were passed on to you by your mother-figure(s) – what is to be cherished and remembered? What can be changed for the better as we think about our younger sisters, daughters and nieces?